Hey ladieeees!!! Let’s talk about sex, aight?
My last couple posts were heavy so I’ll try to keep it short & sweet.
Ohhhh wait a minute – if you’re not married – this post is NOT for you.
Do not, I repeat: DO NOT WRECK YOUR BLESSINGS. Scripture is clear about the “special” kind of sin that sex outside of marriage can be…
Flee from sexual immorality. All other sins a man commits are outside his body, but he who sins sexually sins against his own body. Do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not your own; you were bought at a (high) price. Therefore honor God with your body. 1 Corinthians 6:18-20
I didn’t make up the rules, but I can tell you this – Chris and I are CRAAAAAAAAAAZY BLESSED and I know without a DOUBT that God is pouring out His EVERYTHING on us for sacrificing our own desires and waiting to have sex. I cannot explain it, but that was a game changer for us and we are reaping the benefits FOREVERRRRR.
Here are some swirls on sex & waiting … Check it.
Not – “WHEN is the LAST TIME that man sent FLOWERS to you?”
BUT — “WHEN is the LAST TIME you wore LINGERIE for HIM?”
If you’re bitter and over it, you’re not going to like this. Because women often use sex like it’s a privilege. NEWS FLASH: Sex is not a privilege -or a luxury – it’s not a doggy bone your husband earns for being good. Sex is not a precious piece of china that belongs to the wife to be kept and brought out only on special occasions.
SEX IS A GIVEN – THE BARE MINIMUM!
1Cor 7:5 (NKJ) Do not deprive one another except with consent for a time…
1Cor 7:5 Do not refuse one another, unless perhaps it is just for a time and by mutual consent…
1Cor 7:3-4 (NRS) The husband should give to his wife her conjugal rights, and likewise the wife to her husband. For the wife does not have authority over her own body, but the husband does; likewise the husband does not have authority over his own body, but the wife does.
Look now, it’s no good questioning scripture. Be like NIKE and JUST DO IT.
It’s real simple – flowers and love notes MAKE US HAPPY. Making your spouse happy is the thing to do. The enemy wants you to focus on how your husband is NOT doing this. But, you have the power to destroy the enemy — Change your perspective.
If making your spouse happy is the thing to do, be soooo careful that you don’t spend all of your energy taking care of kids, cleaning the house, killing yourself at your job, and everything else BUT pleasing your husband with your body.
Let your fountain be blessed,
and rejoice in the wife of your youth,
a lovely deer, a graceful doe.
Let her breasts fill you at all times with delight;
be intoxicated always in her love. ~Proverbs 5
Maybe you’re so used to a busy life that you simply forget? Easy fix – set.a.reminder.
When you see that reminder pop up – use it as a trigger to think of how long it’s been and to make a plan of action. Use that reminder to set your lingerie out, send a hot sext to your man, or buy a can of whipped cream – WHATEVER – anything – just. do. SOMETHING! Otherwise, we all know, life will take over and your man will get left behind.
Maybe you’re a Christian woman that was beaten over the head so much with the negativity of sex that it’s hard for you to see it in a positive light? KNOW that this is one of the most common sexual issues in Christian marriage and you are not doomed. Counseling, great books, and a new view of sexual intimacy can change your life – and your husband’s!
This is only 1 of a million great books I’ve come across – you can get it here.
Maybe sex is not pleasurable for you, maybe it physically hurts, or you’ve just never had an orgasm and you don’t know how. Common, common, common – all of it.
Make a doctor’s appointment – STAT. And let your doc know what’s going on. It’s never too early to get started down the right path to sexual fulfillment in your marriage.
Here is a list of local sex therapists. I learned some great things about sex therapy in school, and hope to continue that education someday – but for now, all I can say is there is sooooo much to it, and I highly recommend it for married couples!
Ok so here’s my wifey challenge for this week – pick one!
1. Go to Barnes & Noble & browse the sex area for a.while. Find something new, take it home, and get busy!
2. Pull your old lingerie crammed in the back of your bra drawer out and put.it.on.
3. Better yet, buy something new! Victoria’s Secret, Christy’s Toy Box, Ross, Wal Mart – who cares from where! Just don’t come home empty handed. One of these trips also makes for a great date night excursion!
4. Need a Christmas gift idea for the man that has it all? Two words.
I dare you. Google it, check out images, sites watch some slideshows – – THIS ONE is my favorite– (click on portfolio) although they’re not local (There’s a zillion – get googling and come up with your own ideas!) – HE WILL LOVVVEE ITTTT!!! This was THE best wedding gift I could have gotten Chris and I intend to make a new photobook for him every anniversary! Grab some gaudy jewelry from the $1 jewelry store, some hot, high heels, and have fun with it!
5. Get a sitter, and arm yourself with a candlelit dinner, blindfold, and some Marvin Gaye. Boom.
6. ALL OF THE ABOVE
Sound like too much work? I know you. The Multitasker.
GO HERE – read, and scrolllllll to the bottom slideshow to see all of the things you can be doing at once! ZING!
So the next time you hear Janet Jackson singing, “What have you done for me lately?” in your head, ask yourself when is the last time you slid something lacy & racy on.
I promise you – God’s got special blessings ready for trophy wifeys that keep their man pleased.
Be like NIKE. Did you set that reminder yet? Now is good. 😉